Do friendships require more work then romantic relationships?

I would argue that, yes, friendships require much more work then romantic relationships.  Think about it, we all have groups of friends from different stages of life.  I have my friends that I grew up with, those I met in college, and then a third group from this past year in graduate/medical school.  These three groups do not even include those friends that I met studying abroad.  So I have friends, literally, all over the world.  I’ll admit, sometimes I get so wrapped up in my own life that I will go months without speaking to one of my best friends.

My mom brought this issue to my attention a couple of months ago when she started questioning me about what so and so was doing, how they like their job, if they are still in that relationship, etc, etc.  I realized that I did not have the answers to all of these questions, which was embarrassing because these were some of my closest friends!  Ever since, I have made  a conscious effort to stay in touch and do whatever I can to see my friends when possible (those times are few and far between these days).   What happened to the days where birthdays were worthy of a phone call?  Now it seems that a text message or facebook post is sufficient.  I have to agree with all of those people out there who say that social media and texting is ruining our ability to communicate.  It is simply not as personal, and no one can argue with that.  I admit that I am guilty of taking advantage of the ease of technology on more then one occasion.  I have decided that I am going to make a conscious effort to call each of my friends on their birthdays, because it is often the little things that make all the difference.

Romantic relationships are always challenging yet for some reason, I find them easier to maintain then friendships.  I have been in a relationship for nearly four years, and it has been long distance for the past year and a half.  But no matter what, my boyfriend and I speak on the phone multiple times per day, and we each make the effort to see one another as often as possible despite the distance.  So why is it that I call my boyfriend to update him on every detail of my life and to learn about his, yet it seems to be so difficult to call up a close friend every so often to do the same?

Ask anyone and they will say that relationships require nourishment and attention, but I always assumed that was just the romantic kind.  I took for granted that friendships were easy.  I always knew that when I came home from college on breaks that my high school friends would be there, and that when I was living with my best   college friends, that I would see them daily.  Now that we are all in different places, some in school, some with jobs, it is not as easy to keep in touch. 

Friendships may require life-long effort, but I know for a fact that every second is worth it.  Both of my grandmothers (in their late seventies) get together with friends from high school even to this day.  I see the joy that it brings them and the memories they are able to share.

Do you agree the friendships are more difficult to maintain then romantic relationships?  Please do not hesitate to share your thoughts!  After reading this post, I hope you will call a friend that you may not have spoken to in awhile.

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“God created man before woman. But you always make a rough draft before the final masterpiece.”

Aphrodite- classical image of female beauty.

Hello everyone!  I am somewhat new to the blogging world (apart from a short chronicle of my travels a few years ago).  This has been something I have been thinking about doing for awhile now, and I have decided that it is time.  First of all, let me tell you the motivation behind this blog.  As a twenty-three year old girl, I have found that I struggle with a lot of questions, concerns, personal thoughts about my body, my future, my relationships, etc.  Not unlike many other women out there, I oftentimes turn to the internet for answers, or suggestions.  Unfortunately, I am usually unsuccessful.  I find that there is an abundance of information out there for people who fit a certain profile.  For example, weight loss blogs written by people with a significant amount of weight to lose, or diet blogs written by vegans or former diabetics, blogs for marathon runners, and many more.  Yet I find that there is a lack of information for the “normal” women out there, like me for example.  I am not overweight, I am not a vegan, I am not a marathon runner.  I am just an average woman concerned about every day things, like staying physically fit, finding a job, planning my future, maintaining relationships, and learning to love the body I was given.  Some of you might be thinking, “well isn’t that what your friends and family are for?”, and my answer is yes…sometimes.  I know that I am not always comfortable with sharing my most private thoughts and problems with my closest friends or even my mother.   In these instances, I believe that an anonymous community of women would be the perfect outlet.

So here it is…my answer to this internet void.

Now, a little more about myself.  After many years of hard work, I am finally on my way to medical school.  Fingers crossed, I will be starting my first year in August 2012.  Many people ask me the standard question, “what type of doctor do you want to be?”.  Over the years I have gone back and forth between a few different specialties, but recently, I’ve realized that my desire is to become a physician specializing in women’s health.  Not necessarily, obstetrics or gynecology, but general women’s health.  I know that ever since I left my pediatrician, I have struggled to find a doctor who I felt truly understood the personal issues both medically and personally that many women struggle with.  I am not completely sure if there is a need for physicians with this sort of specialty, so I guess this blog is a little bit of an exploration in that regard.  I hope that my readers will leave comments, ask questions, make suggestions and ultimately, this blog can become a forum for women, so that we can realize that we are not alone in the issues that we struggle with.

I look forward to embarking on this journey with you!

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